In Dave’s midlife he feels like he is just gaining a grasp on who he is and what he wants. For most of his life he regrets hiding from who he was, just to fit the culture. He doesn’t think his experience is all that uncommon. “I believe the beauty of midlife is finally deciding to be “me” foregoing the domestication, social anxiety, and fear that has been a gatekeeper in my life up until this point”, says Dave

At times, he enjoys performing and taking center stage. Other times, as a bit of a closet introvert, he enjoys being by himself. Dave finds small groups and intimate conversation refreshing. Creativity, communication and authentically connecting with people are where he is happiest. He finds too many superficial or inauthentic exchanges exhausting, but at times believes they certainly do have their place.

Dave likes communication of all types. That could happen through writing, acting, energetically or teaching. Presenting ideas to an audience is up his alley. That is as long as he likes the ideas. Dave knows how to consolidate information easily then rework that information into new presentable ideas.

“While I can be a social butterfly, one of my many challenges is being too direct. I’ve been known to offend people on occasion even though that is not my intention. When I do offend and if I realize it, I am more than willing to own my offense, sincerely apologize and then make adjustments,” says Dave.

Dave defines our culture to be a great social experiment. It fascinates him. Stating, “the world is a kaleidoscope of different people. Last I checked there are at least 16 different defined personality types that are then multiplied by different religions, cultural contexts, cultural moments and different IQs. So you can imagine human interaction can be difficult.” One of Dave’s core values is that people have to be willing to do life alongside one another. He knows to be any good at it, first people must drop all sense of superiority. “We all put our pants on one leg at a time”, says Dave.

The irony of our greatest strengths can also be our greatest weaknesses. For Dave, being the life of the party, with clever and witty statements makes him fun to be around at times, but that has also has gotten him in trouble more than once. The statement of “loyal to a fault” fits him as it has been a blessing and a curse. His quick thinking has accomplished a lot, but it has also made for lots of frustration in his existence. Dave’s perfectionism allows him to organize chaos which is beneficial but is also one of his biggest hindrances. “Sometimes there is just nothing wrong with good enough. It’s the internal wrestle between these living dualisms that makes us who we are if we are simply willing to wrestle with them” says Dave.

When asked the question, “Who are you?”, Dave suggested that it’s so hard to define who he is believing people are dynamic. Dave says, “yesterday’s answers are not tomorrow’s truths. Hopefully we are continually reinventing ourselves to become a better us.”

Hometown

Phoenix, Arizona

Work and School Experience

Scottsdale Christian Academy
Ingleside Middle School
Arcadia High School
Phoenix Christian High School
Arcadia High School - Round Two
Coronado High School Automotive Vocation Class
Chaparral High School
Paradise Valley Community College
Scottsdale Community College
ASE Certified Automotive Technician
Automotive Store Manager
Industrial HVAC Industry Sales
Owner of Tri-City Transmission & Auto Repair
Still an ASE Technician
Automotive Service Writer
Co-creator / Co-host of Bumper to Bumper Radio
Automotive Therapist

Hobbies Include

Whatever His Son is into
Sports
All Types of Cycling
Meditation
Reading
Yoga
Writing
Creating
People

Dave’s Favorite Sayings from Somewhere

Wisdom is knowing the extent of our ignorance
Wisdom is competency in the complex realities of life
If you do what you love, you will never work a day in your life
We don’t know what we don’t know
Black & White doesn’t exist, get used to the Grey
Your reality is just that, your reality
No one thinks they’re an asshole
People always think they are right in the courtroom of their own mind
Is the unexamined life worth living
The mind is like a parachute, it only works if you open it

Life-Changing Authors for Dave

M. Scott Peck
Don Miguel Ruiz Sr & Jr
Brene Brown
Michael A. Singer
Tim Keller
Elizabeth Gilbert
Thich Nhat Hanh
William P. Young
Bessel van der Kolk